Monthly Project Updates are a series I began when starting my blog. It’s mostly a way for me to hold myself accountable for finishing the many things I start, but I hope it also makes for an entertaining read! My ultimate goal would be to have a group of bloggers share comments or link to posts about their own monthly progress and successes–the more the merrier!
Before I start on this month’s updates, I need to take a deep breath and think about all the changes that have occurred in the past few weeks–and the ones yet to come! My next project update will be written from Singapore–and I’m sure my goals will be in flux over the course of the next few months! In some ways, this is a pivot point. Priorities are shifting, and my goals going forward may be different from the six goals I had when I started this blog!
Goals Big and Small:
Only one week left to get rid of clutter in the apartment before the temporary move to Singapore! I’m fantasizing about coming home to an organized, pristine home, and realizing I still have a long way to go!
Plan the wedding
DONE!!! After a whirlwind of planning, contacting vendors, and sobbing inwardly as the budget nearly doubled, we pulled it off! Here are some lessons I learned the hard way:
- Everything takes three times as long and costs twice as much as you expect. Plan accordingly–stay under-budget whenever you can, be prepared to abandon a few lofty ideas for cheaper alternatives…and give yourself plenty of extra time for any DIY projects!
- The best advice I got (and failed to follow) was ask for help! I had tons of friends who were more than willing to help during the planning process, but I was too uptight and paranoid to delegate anything. If I’d taken time to include more people in the planning process, I probably would have been much less stressed!
- Don’t be afraid of breaking traditions! Our wedding was untraditional, but all of our guests loved how much it reflected our personalities. If anyone was offended that we didn’t have a registry, a wedding cake, or a garter toss, no one mentioned it to us!
- If you’re planning an outdoor wedding, have a flood plan. Seriously. Because even if there’s been a severe drought all summer, you could still get three inches of rain on your wedding day… and unless you have a magical mother-in-law who can conjure up a last-minute venue four hours before the wedding and an army of friends willing to move all your decorations, desserts, and flowers to this new venue, you’re going to have a lot of soggy guests! (Spoiler alert: I think my mother-in-law moonlights as a fairy god mother…)
- Keep your priorities straight! Things will go wrong. You’re the one who decides whether to interpret it as a catastrophe, or one of those ironic twists that makes life fun and memorable. As long as you and your intended, say your vows, and end the day with a signed marriage license, your main concern should be enjoying the company of the family and friends who came out to celebrate!
Lately my music sessions have been confined to singing in the shower or the car… I’m definitely looking forward to having more time to practice music in Singapore! (I probably won’t have access to a piano, but it will be a good chance to reconnect with my dusty guitar!)
I’ve now, officially, been unemployed longer than at any point in my life since I was sixteen. I’m torn between using my forced four-month vacation as an opportunity for growth and exploration, and just diving in and trying to find paying work as soon as possible. There’s nothing definitive I can say here, except that I will never, ever add “wedding coordinator” to my list of dream jobs!
Nothing separates the true friends from the flakes like a crisis! When our planned wedding venue flooded, I was overwhelmed by the number of friends who went out of their way to keep our wedding on-track by moving car-loads of decorations and equipment and helping with set-up!
My new challenge will be trying to make friends in Singapore while keeping in touch with friends back home!
I’ve been a bit delinquent in updating this blog, but I’m hoping to write more regularly in the coming months! I have several half-written posts, and ideas for regular features I’d like to add.
Progress has been slow on my book… I have a love/hate relationship with the project. The story, which seemed so clear in my head, is seems to lack direction on the page. While this particular piece of fiction might never actually be good, I feel like I’m learning a lot about the writing process in trying to make it the best book it can be.
That said, any of you writers who have tips about how to keep the action in a book moving forward, please let me know!
Over the next few months, I’m going to shift the focus of my projects. In up-coming posts, I will write about:
- Enjoying Singapore on a budget and making the most of being a stay-at-home ex-pat wife
- Writing–finishing my book, blogging consistently, and trying to write every day
- Living creatively–finding a balance between creative pursuits and a lucrative career
What projects are you working on this month? What lessons have you learned from a major project you completed?